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Balancing the Needs of Siblings When a Child Is Ill


In every family's journey, some moments test the strength and unity of its members. One such moment is when a child falls seriously ill, which, while demanding utmost attention for the sick child, also poses the challenge of ensuring that other siblings do not feel neglected or overlooked. Recognizing and addressing the needs of these children is crucial for maintaining family harmony and ensuring each child feels valued and supported.

Understanding the Impact on Siblings

The effects of a child's illness on their siblings can vary widely, influenced by factors such as age, gender, and birth order. Children from as young as one sense shifts in family dynamics and may feel sidelined as the sick child receives more attention​​. These feelings of neglect can manifest in various ways, including guilt, jealousy, and resentment, and can impact siblings differently based on their developmental stage​​. It's essential for parents to be aware of these potential feelings and to actively work to mitigate them.

Strategies for Supporting Siblings

Prioritize One-on-One Time

Dedicated time with each sibling is vital. This means engaging in activities they love, offering them undivided attention, and being patient with their emotional expressions, ranging from acting out to seeking extra affection​​. These moments are not just about fun but are crucial opportunities for siblings to feel seen and heard.

Inclusion in Care and Hospital Visits

Involving siblings in the care process can help them feel connected and important. For example, you might let them help pack a hospital bag or participate in hospital visits. This way, they can better understand their sibling's condition and feel part of the family's collective journey​​.

Access to Direct Therapy and Support

It's beneficial to seek out therapy and support groups specifically designed for siblings of sick children. Hospitals often offer resources like group therapy, individual counseling, and sibling support programs, which can be invaluable for helping them process their feelings in a safe and understanding environment​.

Maintain Daily Routines

Keeping daily routines as normal as possible is comforting and provides stability amidst the upheaval. Regular school attendance, mealtimes, and bedtime rituals can reassure siblings that some aspects of life remain unchanged​​.

Open and Honest Communication

Maintaining open lines of communication is key. Children should be encouraged to express their feelings and concerns, reassured that their feelings are valid, and informed about their sibling's condition in an age-appropriate manner​​.

School and Community Support

Enlisting the support of teachers and school counselors can provide an additional layer of understanding and accommodation for siblings who may be struggling. Community support, such as from neighbors or family friends, can also help manage the logistical challenges of having a hospitalized child​.

Navigating a child's illness is a complex journey for any family. It demands a balance between caring for the sick child and ensuring their siblings feel loved and valued. By employing strategies such as one-on-one time, inclusion in care, access to therapy, maintaining routines, open communication, and seeking community support, parents can help all their children navigate this challenging time together.

Each child's well-being is a crucial piece of the family puzzle. If your family is navigating these challenges and you're seeking support, don't hesitate to ask for help. Whether through direct communication with healthcare providers, exploring support groups, or simply calling a trusted friend or family member, remember support is available. For more detailed guidance or to connect with others facing similar challenges, consider contacting us at 516-242-1564 or visit our contact page at Together, we can ensure that every child feels seen, heard, and supported.



  1. CaringBridge. (n.d.). 8 Tips to Care for Siblings of a Sick Child.

  2. Help Starts Here. (n.d.). Support for Siblings of Sick Children.

  3. UCSF Benioff Children's Hospitals. (n.d.). Supporting Siblings of a Hospitalized Child.

  4. St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital. (n.d.). How Siblings React to Having a Sick Brother or Sister.

  5. (n.d.). Siblings of Children with Chronic Illnesses or Disabilities.

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